Do you love yourself? Regardless your mistakes, your weaknesses, your failures, your dark side? Passionately? If I had to make a guess, I would say probably no.
And why not? Why aren’t we loving ourselves when we are physically always there for ourselves and we know ourselves more than anyone? When we know our strength, our thoughts, our feelings? Wouldn’t it be easier to love ourselves than to hate ourselves? We are stuck with ourselves, after all.
How often do you hear people say: ‘I love myself!’. I don’t know about you, but I don’t hear that, like ever. And if someone said that, people would think that it is inappropriate, right? What a narcissistic a**hole! But why? Why it is a sin to be confident, to love that person that you are? It isn’t. In fact, you should do it. You should be your own best friend. Always.
Self-love is getting more and more important. With social media, that can bring you really down, looking all of those perfect lives from other people, their perfect bodies and nice things, you can feel crappy in like 2 seconds. Before social media, people would compare themselves to others, too. But they would compare themselves to people in their immediate environment. So there were people who were more successful and others who were less. Nowadays, all you see is people portraying their best moments. And you compare your worst to their best. Quickly, you can think that you are less worth and hate yourself and your life.
But this has to change. If we all would love ourselves more, the world would be a better place. We wouldn’t bring down others as much, just to feel better. We would treat others with more respect. I wish this was a reality.
I thought it would be nice if I created a ‘challenge’ for self-love. So I put together 14 things you could do in 14 consecutive days for more self-love. These are baby steps and easy to do tasks, but of course, these are not going to change how you think about yourself instantly. Nothing will in 14 days. Only you can do it with a lot of work. But believe me, it will be worth it. You can’t live your whole life in self-hatred, after all. And you shouldn’t.
Please, just try this challenge. Even if you don’t do all the tasks or leave out days or whatever. Even you reading this means that the info that you should love yourself more is now in your brain. That is a great start. You could do 2 tasks from the list in 1 month, or 2 tasks in 1 week. Whatever floats your boat. Just try to make little steps to more self-love.
So here is the challenge:
I also wanted to take the time and explain why I choose these tasks for the challenge. This way you may get a better understanding of why you are doing these things and not others.
Day 1: Take 15 minutes out of your hectic day and write. It doesn’t matter what. Just write it down.
I feel like it is always therapeutic to sit down with a pen and blank pages. Without any intention. Just sitting there and writing whatever comes to your mind. Takes this time to clear out your mind and be there for yourself. Write, as if you would tell your problems and concerns or your happy moments and successes to your best friend. Be your best friend.
Day 2: Clean your room/apartment and put everything where it belongs.
Having a clean environment is a huge thing for self-love. You know how you tidy when someone comes over? Why aren’t you doing this for yourself? Respect yourself more than living in a cluttered, messy place.
Day 3: Shower or take a bath, shave, put on a hair mask, pluck your eyebrows.
Take time to pamper yourself, is all I want to say with this. You can do other things than the ones listed here, I just choose some that I hate to do and should do more often because I feel like a million bucks afterwards.
Day 4: Read that book that you wanted to read but never had the time to for 30 minutes.
I think this is self-explanatory. Take the time to finally read what you want to read. No excuses.
Day 5: Do some yoga and even if you can’t do all poses right, don’t be hard on yourself. Laugh instead.
Yoga does wonders to you, your body, your mind, your flexibility. I would highly recommend implementing yoga in your life. But other than that, at the beginning it could be quite funny also. When you do a crazy pose and lose your balance, just laugh it out.
Day 6: Take your time to get ready. Put on your favourite clothes, do your makeup, spray perfume and feel badass.
Everytime when I take my time to get ready, put on nice clothes and do my makeup I feel so much more confident and great in my skin.
Day 7: Light some candles and meditate for 10 minutes.
I love candles because of the natural light and warmth. It is so much more natural than all the lights in the house. I know, meditating is something that a lot of people still think of as something weird. And it is not easy. But just try it for 10 minutes. It will calm and center you.
Day 8: Eat something crazy healthy for breakfast and feel good about it the whole day.
Make that smoothie with superfoods and maca powder and greens and feel rejuvenated.
Day 9: Write down the single biggest challenge that you’ve overcome.
We all go through hard times. Think back and write down the hardest time you ever had in your life and how you managed to overcome it. Then be proud of yourself and acknowledge that you probably thought that time that you can’t do it. Well, you could and you did. And now you are here. You are powerful.
Day 10: Buy yourself a nice journal and start doing morning pages.
I think doing something for yourself creates more self-love. Morning pages are a great way of getting your head clear from everything in the morning. If you don’t know what morning pages are: every morning you should write 3 pages about anything. It doesn’t matter what you write. Even if you have the feeling you can’t write anything, you have to write. Also, you are not allowed to read back what you wrote and it is the best if nobody knows about your journal. Write your darkest secrets down.
Day 11: Make an ‘I am proud of myself’ jar and put in a post-it note everytime you are proud of yourself (or should be!).
Let this jar sit somewhere, where you can see it very often. Everytime you accomplished something or dealt with a situation or loved yourself more, it doesn’t matter how small it was, just write it down on a small piece of paper and put it in the jar. Watch it fill up.
Day 12: Put away your phone for 1 hour and do something nice instead.
It is common knowledge today that we spend too much time on social media and our phones. So on day 12 just put it away, let it charge, put it on silent and set a timer for 1 hour. Do something for yourself. You could do yoga and meditate, or read, draw, journal, sing, dance, go for a walk, take a bath. Be for yourself, calm your mind.
Day 13: Declutter your social media: unfollow anyone that makes you feel bad about yourself.
Speaking of social media: we follow a lot of people who only make us feel crap about ourselves. That girl from your old class that only post stunning selfies of herself on instagram and you feel shitty about yourself, that guy that only posts his new Audis and villas while you are nearly broke. Follow inspiring and empowering accounts. It will create a shift in your mindset.
Day 14: Write down 5 things that you can do for yourself for more self-love.
On the last day I want to you think about tasks like these to do for more self-love. You know yourself better than I do, so know better what would help you to love yourself more. I put a lot of thought into these tasks for this challenge, but I still don’t know you and can’t customize it for you. But you can. So just write a little list and everytime you feel down, just do something from it. Make yourself feel better, don’t rely on other people. Love yourself.
I hope you give it a try and try to love yourself more. If you did, please let me know in the comments, I would love to know how it went. Also, please share it on social media if you liked this challenge! Let’s motivate people to love themselves more 🙂
Thank you for reading!